So my son is 13 and of course we had "the talk" with him. It involved a rather clinical version of what is involved, a day of changing his brother's diapers and a rather unsettling google image search with the safe search turned off. I googled the words "herpes outbreak" and "penis". Wow That was enough for both of us to swear off sex FOREVER.
The other day I talked with him about another important issue. Your first heartbreak. I told him how lots of people talked to me about sex but no one said how traumatic it was going to be to get your heart broken. I said you will feel like the color has drained from the world and nothing will ever be good again. That no one can understand your pain and the world is cold and unloving. I want you to remember that it will get better, then worse, and then better again. It is just messy terrible wonderful life. These experiences will shape your life and become part of you. I told him I wanted him to remember he can come to me if he wants to or needs to and I will listen and silently judge. Then we laughed because come on its me.
After this loving talk he looked at me and said, "Try having a crush on a girl who was bisexual and then became a full lesbian at 12. She even got the haircut." I said, "Well that stuff happens too. Annie sure is a nice girl. I also don't think the haircut has much to do with lesbianism and I am pretty sure it wasn't a requirement."
So I love talking to my kids about life good and bad. Our lives are messy amazing gifts we get to have. I am so lucky to have such an amazing family.
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